In my book, there's a chapter 'How to compare yourself to yourself only?'. This chapter talks about the struggle of comparing yourself to others in which you (sometimes) deny your uniqueness. It's such a shame that we tend to compare ourselves to other people. I absolutely loved what Gisele Bündchen wrote in her book about this topic, and wanted to share this with you:
“Comparing yourself with another person is pointless. Why? Because all of us have something special to offer since each one of us is unique. If you spend time comparing yourself with someone else, the only thing you’re doing is setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. You won’t ever feel good enough. There are seven and half billion people in the world, so chances are that someone will always be “better” than you in some respect. But is that person you? Did she grow up in your family? Did she grow up at the same time you did, share your parents, your siblings, your childhood, your teachers, your friends, your advantages, your disadvantages, your education, your jobs, or . . . ? Of course she didn’t. When we frame things that way, the idea of comparing ourselves to other people seems ridiculous. I compare myself with only one person: me. Am I doing the best I can at my job? Am I being the best wife, the best mother, the best friend, the best human being? How can I keep learning and improving?” Gisele Bündchen, Lessons: My Path to a Meaningful Life
The next best version of yourself is never the next best version of someone else. You are your biggest project. There's no point in trying to be like someone else. Be younique. Allow your own path to unfold, and give yourself permission to unlock your own potential - instead of looking at someone else's potential.
Start Somewhere. Get over this mental block. It doesn't matter how fast you're going as long as you're moving.
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